The difference lies in whether the court believes the claim of alienation. However, I will not take up readers’ time with the loaded language. Why would these women leave when the courts will take their children and hand them to the abuser who oftentimes, through his control and manipulation of the other parent, retains financial stability and appears to be emotionally stable while the battered woman is left crying, pleading, and making allegations against him which those around her perceive as delusions. Unless we can see how thoroughly abuse claims are investigated and adjudicated we can’t know whether the point Meier is trying to make is valid. There is no time to waste. This is going on in ALL countries to a lesser or greater extent. Other than that it only raises awareness of what is going on in the US courts. Social work is THE ‘blame and shame’ culture. I haven’t added it with the sole purpose of assisting court goers. Child Abuse. “The study, written by professor of clinical law Joan S. Meier, shows that mothers who report abuse — particularly child abuse — are losing child custody at staggering rates. Mothers are losing custody of their children to their abusers even in cases where family violence is documented with hospital records, convictions, and restraining orders. What it needs to be about is when children allege abuse. child custody outcomes in cases involving parental alienation and abuse allegations: what do the data show?”, By Joan S. Meier, Journal of Social Welfare and Family Law 42:1, 92-105 (2020). Until then, all we’ll get is access to the first few pages of any cases when conducting research into what happens at court, and we’ll never have the true picture. What is important is that children continue their upbringing with both parents, and to that extent the needs of the child are paramount.  No child should be separated from a good mother nor should they have their rights taken from them while others profit from their abuse. All rights reserved. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this website’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. But alienation will not be believed – or not believed to be sufficiently serious – in all cases. Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. “MeMe. Family courts have made it easy for batterers to abuse their families, and in this manner the abuse is legal. I presume the fear of making false allegations of abuse is beginning to reasonate within the ‘remove fathers at any cost’ mindset! The author’s partisan position is painfully apparent from the opening sentence. Whether we like it or not, sometimes things do come down to gender bias, much in the same way as they do for race, religion and ethnicity. ( Log Out /  III. Cahn’s article is entitled “Why Women Lose Custody,” but Meier’s dubious claims aren’t the reason. We need to ensure that any SW found to be committing perjury is tried in a criminal court, and then maybe they’d actually tell the truth without partisan bias. To Meier, the data provides a window into what she considers a parallel to the #MeToo movement. Child neglect may be a reason to lose custody of a child if it is serious Child neglect may be a form of abuse. Family courts have made it easy for batterers to abuse their families, and in this manner the abuse is legal. In many cases, battered women are left bankrupt trying to defend themselves and their children. Since alienation involves psychological trauma to the child, and the courts are mandated to make the child’s welfare paramount, if the court believes this is happening it is hardly surprising that the result is frequently a court ruling for change of residency. My guess is that most people inquiring into the topic would want to know those things, but not Meier. Men are placed in positions of authority over their families and it is the right and responsibility of the husband to discipline his family. Do children need a relationship with their fathers even when their fathers have been abusive to them in the past? Specifically, the court wants to see that you actively support your child’s relationship with his father, and you encourage that relationship to develop. When I was accused of being insane by the father it was much easier to solve the case this way. So, the data derives predominantly from appeal courts. As in their pilot study, Meier and her research team found that only 1 out of every 51 cases in which a mother reported child sexual abuse by the father was believed, when the father claimed parental alienation. I doubt many people think so, but apparently Meier is one who does. There is nothing within the paper to support this conclusion. ( Log Out /  SCHOLARLY COMMENTARIES V. MEDIA REPORTS High conflict families are disproportionately represented among the population of those contesting custody and visitation. When they can then you can claim equality with mothers. For example, although she uses the terms “abuse” and “alienation” liberally, she nowhere defines abuse and her definition of parental alienation is flat wrong. A very true and balanced assessment, I think. This ‘research’ and the hopelessly amateurish reporting of it are only worthy of someone who already has an answer. The UK and the US family courts are very similar in a lot of ways, and this research while not carried out in the UK, highlights the same problem we have here. They do so particularly when mothers allege some form of DV or child abuse to a family court. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. The custody reversals in (B), i.e., 44% or 28%, are less than in (A), i.e., 71%, because the latter is conditional upon the alienation claim being believed. This is another issue over which the peer reviewer(s) failed badly. I think Vicky Haigh and Jo Dean would agree with the findings! Change ). The more likely interpretation of Meier’s own data is that they reveal that a larger percentage of claims of alienation by mothers are false than claims of alienation by fathers, bearing in mind that this relates only to Meier’s skewed dataset. In order to prevent others from testifying to witnessed abuse, the abuser may manipulate, threaten, bribe, or even blackmail the family and friends of his victim. Thousands of Mothers Lose Their Children to Abusive Fathers Representing only women in divorce and custody cases, Diane and Charlie began my education with one grisly case. Abuse claims tend to be part of a raft of other actions by alienating parents; not investigated here. Then there’s the fact that Meier’s study is hamstrung by its own methodology that’s doomed by selection bias. But no scientist working in the field of alienation has ever defined PA as a gendered phenomenon for the good and sufficient reason that it’s not one. (Mildred Daley Pagelow, Battered Women A Historical Research Review and Some Common Myths, p. 107). And if it’s this hard for heterosexual abuse victims how much harder is it for those in the LGBT community where silence may still govern their lifestyle? These cases commonly involve domestic violence, child abuse, and substance abuse. I thought it was a fluke, but I agreed to look at some of the legal documents. It shows the extent of the inherent stupidity of all those running the system, judges, social workers, Cafcass, and expert witnesses. To Meier, the data provides a window into what she considers a parallel to the #MeToo movement. Let me unpick the paper a little so you can see how propaganda gold is spun out of factual straw. Change ), You are commenting using your Facebook account. Here’s what she said: Parental alienation (or “alienation”), while lacking any universal definition, at its essence, is the theory that when a mother and/or child seek to restrict a father’s access to the child, their claims of dangerousness or harm are not true, but due to the mother’s anger or hostility, or pathology. How then did they become noncustodial? I have reviewed a great many academic publications. Mothers Losing Custody To Abusive Fathers Mothers are leaving an abusive relationship and the abusive father are gaining custody of the children. List readers may be interested in this review of the Joan Meier study by family law commentator Robert Franklin. The US has long been ahead of the toxic gender politics and fellow travellers so enmeshed within the UK. The possible reasons for this are, (a) the courts are biased against mothers, or (b) the courts are broadly accurate in their assessments but a larger percentage of alienation claims by mothers than by fathers are false within Meier’s skewed dataset. As advocacy research goes, this is not one of the more subtle varieties. Failure to properly feed, clothe or groom a child may be neglect. “The only other things that matters to me is working to get body cameras on social workers made manadary, complete transparency in family courts with each FC hearing to be video taped, evidential standards in FC to be the same as in criminal courts, for all cases involving allegations of abuse/violence of any kind to be pursued and actioned in the criminal courts concurrent with any FC hearings and such criminal cases to be CONCLUDED before conclusion of the FC case.”, While I concur with the above. “The key questions we should be asking, are why are men and women perceived a specific way in this context and what can we do to ensure that children genuinely being harmed are protected?” We need to start with social services. Mothers are losing custody of their children to their abusers even in cases where family violence is documented with hospital records, convictions, and restraining orders. 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